Victim FAQ

Q: How can I contact MRA ?

Answer: If you are from Pune, please refer to the helpline numbers from Pune. If you are from outside Pune, please refer to the numbers nearest to you. For those residing in/around Pune, attending the weekly meeting is compulsory. That is for your own benefit.

Q: Is MRA on social media ?

Answer: Yes, please refer to the Contact-Us page. You will also find the MRA Yahoo group link.

Q. What help can I get from MRA ?

Answer: MRA provides free legal and emotional help to Men in distress.

Q. What is the procedure, once I come to weekly meeting ?

Answer: Once you come to the weekly meeting(at Sambhaji Park). The first thing, that you will be told to do is to fill the registration form. Please ask for the registration form.  You will be provided with MRA membership guidelines. Once you have duly filled in the registration form, you will be given an introduction about MRA and what it works for. Then you will be provided a counselor, who will guide you in detail as to how you should prepare your case.

Q. What all is done in weekly meeting of MRA ?

Answer:Weekly meeting is of 2 hrs. Its timings are 4.00 pm to 6.00 pm every Sunday. The meeting is divided into two sessions of one hour each. First session of the weekly meeting is devoted to legal and others discussions. In this session, people ask various legal queries, and answers are provided. Legal knowledge sharing also happens in this round. You can also ask personal queries, related to matters which are affecting you. Next Session is activity session. In this session, discussion about planning of activities, and various events/news related to Men’s rights are discussed.

Q. My wife is very evil, and harasses me a lot. Should I file divorce ?

Answer: Generally we do NOT advise Men to file divorce first. You need to have a good understanding of Indian matrimonial laws before you do anything. Indian family courts are heavily biased in favour of wives. You need to have very solid material evidence in your favour to get a divorce. We have guided many members and all of them have got a divorce without paying a single rupee to their errant wives.

Q. Why should I join MRA, when all judgements are available online ?

Answer: You should join MRA and attend weekly meetings for various reasons. Using the judgements needs skill. You need to be aware of legal procedures and nitty-gritties. During your fight several times, you will need emotional support. MRA and its activists provide that crucial emotional support. You will gain many friends in MRA, who will understand your pain, since they have also suffered the same. Keep in mind you are not fighting your wife, but against the Indian legal system, a very formidable enemy.

Q. Can you suggest me a lawyer ?

Answer: We do not suggest any lawyer. Instead we train victims in legal knowledge. We strongly recommend that you purchase law books, study them, and become knowledgeable. Our weekly meetings are designed for that purpose.

Q. How do I fight 498A ?

Answer: A good starting point is to start reading Indian Penal Code, and Criminal Procedure Code. Go through the 498A survival kit. Keep your head cool. In depth discussion in weekly meetings.

Q. How do I fight false Domestic violence case ?

Answer: Read PWDVA Act. Carefully analyze the case. Keep your head cool. In depth discussion in weekly meetings.

Q. Can I get divorce from my unscrupulous wife ?

Answer: In India it is very difficult to get divorce from an unscrupulous wife. However if your wife has filed cases against you. With the right knowledge and attitude, you can use the false cases as a good basis to get issue-free(without any alimony) divorce from an unscrupulous wife.

12 Comments

  1. Dilshad Begum's Gravatar Dilshad Begum
    June 13, 2017    

    There is a false 420 -case filed against me and my family for the breaking engagement on mutual understanding due to differences between me and the girl’s brother .The girl’s brother damaged a car by accident which was arranged by us .His car was under repair in Hyderabad under our supervision. So we arranged a car for his family from our neighbors on rental basis. After accident he never showed up; due to which we informed Hyderabad police and police settled the matter by agreeing to the condition that once the damaged car is repaired or replaced by the girl’s brother his car will be returned by me. Then girl’s brother left for abroad and never turned up. After waiting for few months we filled Interpleader suit on him. Counter to that he filled a false 420 case on me and my whole family of 6 members for taking Dowry of Rs.6,00,000 before the 6 months of marriage.actually no marriage.Just to avoid paying damaged car amount and to EXTORT money from us A false case is framed by police.Now we are attending court but they are harassing and threatening us.Twice we were attacked.It is KADAPA in AP state.Factional area. police is helping them.Police don’t take action there.

  2. Mahesh's Gravatar Mahesh
    May 24, 2017    

    Hi
    This incident happened on 20 may 2017 night, we both are study and we are friend (not a such colse friend just know each other)
    From last 6 month, just call some time and meet some time, we not touch or contact in month of April and suddenly she call me 20 may and told she want to stay one night aon my flat because she don’t have place to stay.
    We both of age 30 and unmarried and paper for civil services.
    I thought I should help her and I agree she come to flat and stay whole night . I was not very interested in her, but she told me she likes me and we kissed, we hagged touch each other but we never did intercourse (sex) during night.

    And next morning we had breakfast and she live the flat and go to hostel and next day she call me and told … you misuse me and my emotion. I file case agence you. You rap me ( even we not have sex) she force me to marry call me every day and blckmeling me.

    My life become hell, if she file case agence me I don’t have any other option…..I suicide.

    Plz help me . Last tow day I am not in so stresfull even I am not eat food…

    Do you think she can take any action me? Legally?

    What should I do …. can I file case agence she for a percussion….

    Plz help me ……

  3. praveen singhal's Gravatar praveen singhal
    May 15, 2017    

    my family life ia ok. i am harrased by a neibour woman with false allegations. i live oin gurgaon 554 sector38

  4. Vijay Kumar's Gravatar Vijay Kumar
    October 27, 2016    

    I am a 59 years old male and I am constantly being tortured mentally and physically by my wife (aged 46 years old) for last one year.

    For last one year I have been constantly tortured by my second wife. She falsely accuses me of having an affair with some imaginary lady and even having another child from her. She is making up this false story based on only one picture of mine where some random lady is seen in the background. I even do not know who that particular lady is? She is some random traveler caught in the camera behind me while taking picture.
    I had made multiple attempts to convince to my wife that there is no other lady in my life apart from her and further I had no relationship with any other lady in the past apart from my first wife but she does not listens to my explaination.Everyday she makes up some imaginary story about that unknown lady and she starts harassing me. She resorts to verbal abuse and often accuses me both in private and public. She has physically assaulted me multiple times for the same reason.
    She has confiscated my mobile phone and does not allow me to talk or meet any of my relatives. She also abuses my relatives and do not allow them to come to our house. She has totally closed my social life. She always keep a watch on my movements. She everyday keeps track of me, at what time I reach or leave office by daily calling to my supervisor. This practice has become quite an embarrassment to me in front of my office colleagues.
    I have been tolerating her misbehavior and torture since one year in the hope that things would become improve over the time but her behavior has worsened over the time .Now I am not able to tolerate her verbal or physical abuses and false accusations.
    I am very depressed with my life at this moment and I am desperately seeking help. Could you please advise me what should I do now?

    • Lokesh's Gravatar Lokesh
      April 9, 2017    

      Sir, it even may be some psychiatric problem. You may discuss with any Psychiatrist. once

  5. February 15, 2016    

    I divorced in 2013 with mutual consent, and one of the condition was that I will bear the education expenses of my daughter. Since 2013 I have been paying my daughters fees regularly, but I think during the admission to another school my ex-wife paid some Rs. 25000, but now she send me a notice through family court that I haven’t paid any fees and demands me to pay Rs. 79000 as her educational expenses. I want to know how to deal with this situation.

  6. Rajesh Thakur's Gravatar Rajesh Thakur
    November 30, 2015    

    Me & my family harassment by my wife & her relative. They have complaint in police 100 no. call of domestic violence on dated 20.11.15

    Our marriage is arrange. After marriage she failed to complete the roles & responsibility. She is continuously depress/disturb my family, me & my career repetitively. She and his family also government servant. i’m doing job in private sector as a executive. She dominate as compare to her family & preference give to her family first. I feel guilty for this. She make decision as per her family told.

    For all this I want to suicide & end my life attempt same but not succeeded because my two kids ( 5 & 10 Years boy) depend on me & my family. Finally my friends told me to take suggestion from expert to save the life of my family. So I kindly request you to Please suggest me on above issue on priority I am much frustrate.

    What can i do and how to safe my family and my kids?

  7. Vikas sharma's Gravatar Vikas sharma
    June 30, 2015    

    Hello everybody, You know what ?
    i am also the victim of my wife’s false complaints and felt like an idiot in this unlawful ( women biased ) Indian society., where everybody including judges see me as a hardcore criminal . and everybody sympathise women as she is the Mrs Bechari …
    LET ME TELL YOU ALL there could be number of different cases against men in this country, believe me it can all be sorted out in a maximum may be just 2 months,
    HOW ?
    I tell you ,
    1, Let all INDIAN MEN ASSOCIATION and other pro men societies make up a plan to announce in Media that we as men in India will not marry an Indian origin Girl until she signs a pre marriage bond that in case of marriage break up she will not be liable to any alimony or any other favors in case of kids it has to be settled between them who will take the custody and other may or may not bear the expenses.
    2, if really women think that they are equal to men then stop crying for extra rights, . Let government set up a price limit on expenses to be spent on marriages that if in any case of marriage break up only that much money can be equally be negotiated between both the parties.
    3 .laws are made so that police, lawyers can take advantage of it and do lot of corruption and generate income. just imagine if there is no provision of these special rights like 498 a and other stupid laws which are found nowhere in world any girl will think twice before filling these irrelevant cases.

    4, My wife had put case against me in the same police station where her brother is working in delhi, that i tried to kill her that too in her own home between her own family, that’s not enough she had points in her complaints that i been demanding flat and car from them , and if that was not enough she made another complaint that i have been doing unnatural sex with her from 2010 as we got married in 2009. we also have 2+ daughter i haven’t seen her from months as lower courts have rejected my bail .because that stupid judge did not looked at my facts and just believed her fake tears.
    i don’t understand Am i that bad a person that i will Kill anybody for the sake of car and flat and Moreover Am i rapist who been raping His own wife from last approx 5 yrs. Am i that bad a person and she is just 100 percent right if that was the truth then why the hell she booked me after that many years .My wife who dont like to do sex suddenly complains that i did unnatural sex with her , i always used to worry for her health whenever i asked for sex she reused that’s why i even took her to doctor and she refused to take medicine. My friends the truth is that i refused to be their ghar jamai and she tried to Ruin my career my life
    (section 377 ) ALL I WANTED TO STATE HERE IN THIS POINT 3RD IS THAT WE SHOULD FIGHT AGAINST IPC SECTION 377 , AS ITS THE NEW WEAPONS USED BY INDIAN WOMEN AS ITS HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TOOL TO STRAIGHTAWAY IMPRISON A MEN WITHOUT EVEN PROOFS. BECAUSE GIRLS KNOW THEIR COULD BE MIXED OPINIONS ABOUT SECTION 498 A BUT SECTION 377 IS HIGHLY ADVISED BY ( ANTI FAMILY ) LAWYERS ..

    I HOPE FRIENDS YOU KNOW THAT IN THIS COUNTRY YOU HAVE TO RAISE YOUR VOICE BECAUSE WOMEN ARE MORE AUDIBLE THESE DAYS AS COMPARED TO MEN , FIGHT IS THE ONLY WAY OUT I REALLY HOPE NEED OF THE OUR IS A SYSTEMATIC APPROACH AND FIGHT TILL WE SUCCEED , ENCOURAGE INDIAN MEDIA. TO SHOW MEN AND THEIR RIGHTS AS WELL IF WOMEN CAN DO MEN CAN DO AS WELL OTHERWISE WE SHOULD BE LABELLED AS THE WEAKER SEX.

  8. adaikalaraj prabhu's Gravatar adaikalaraj prabhu
    June 27, 2015    

    It has been 10 years since we got married. We got 2 daughters. Until 2 years ago we were a happy family. 2 years ago she got a govt. job and six months ago her job was regularized with a good pay (almost twice of what we both earned). From then on she started harassing me. I lost my respect as a husband. Right from the day of marriage she used to call me a popper and yell at me for silly things. lately she started throwing things at me, plastic bottles, oil can, plastic chairs … I got little frightened and to her to a psychiatrist. (Aggressive behavior is their family trait her elder sister has been locked up in asylum by her hubby as she tried to kill him [she accepts that she is mentally sick] ) However, my wife got wild even while talking to the doctor and soon after we came home she hit me with a hammer. She said that I should die if she has to live her life. That was the scariest moment in my life.

    I thought I should leave her. It was her that talked to an advocate for divorce. But all of a sudden she changed her mind and would not proceed. Now that we live in the same house, I fear if she would kill me. She even threatens my parents. I’m worried about the children. I stay with her risking my life to protect my children. Unfortunately, my daughters are fond of her and they stick to her even if she beats them or yells at them.

    Is there a way to get away from this mad woman? I own the house but she wants me out. She doesn’t provide me food or never allows me to cook on my own.

    I’ve stopped talking to her. But every day she finds a new reason to start a fight and every time gets very wild. It’s so scary! What do I do?

    I live in India

    Is there any legal way to get myself out of this trouble.

  9. June 9, 2015    

    Dear sir ….4 mnth ago I got married. ..there is so much problems with my wife.they my wife is bcom honers student …but she doesn’t pass her 12th exam ….she doesn’t want to live in family. ..and I think she is not good with her brain …she is all tym in depression patient …she trying to eat wrong medicine. ..she abuse me al the tym
    please help me
    I need your favoer
    her family is not taking her with them..her mom says she is dead for her …what I do …I am a poor family boy …not so much earnings. …
    Please help
    your obediently
    sunil arora
    9350711885

  10. PRASHANT's Gravatar PRASHANT
    December 2, 2014    

    my wife make false comp lent against me in mumbra police station she said i am bet him & his head injure by me (no any injure mark his head) sub – police inspector visit my home that night at 12 & see all the thing happen she make a false comp lent against me & now he going to women cell in thane & they call me for meet Wednesday now what i should do

    please advise me

    prashant

  11. NATHU SHINDE's Gravatar NATHU SHINDE
    July 16, 2014    

    HI Sir,
    I am Nathu Shinde.
    I need help toregister complaint against ladies police constable.

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